This thesis examines the grief and loss surrounding my brother, Jason, who disappeared fifteen years ago and has not been found. The research is drawn from an autoethnography methodology which will be used in order to gain the full event and emotional turmoil that was created. Grief and loss will be the center of this Kaupapa, with the notion of suggestions and recommendations in which to move through these emotions. This thesis will invite the reader into my thoughts and emotions, sharing the learnings and research through autoethnography to enable the reader to truly grasp the impact the event has had on me, my Whānau, and the Whānau within the other case studies. It is the aim that the reader will find usefulness from this thesis in terms of relating to the events and understanding the emotions that go along with it, utilizing the suggestions and recommendations, especially if the reader him or herself is experiencing the same emotions due to the same nature of the event. It is also the intention to ensure that this Kaupapa is written about in a way that maintains the Mana of those missing people, to ensure that they are not forgotten and will live on through my words. Grief and loss are emotions that are experienced by many people but in different situations and in many different ways. The grief and loss in this thesis are centered on Whānau who have loved ones that have gone missing but haven’t been found. While grief and loss can be compared to other grief and loss scenarios, it is important for this thesis to be centered on the missing loved one in order for the emotions to be aligned to that event, not others. The Kaupapa of this thesis, while extremely emotional, is also part of the healing process for those involved.